by Nadia Stefyn.
In my younger years, success was a largely materialistic, preconceived notion. The right look, impressive job, perfect house, gorgeous partner.
It’s the ever-elusive gold at the end of the rainbow. How often have you hit your goals and thought ‘I’ve made it!’, only to notice the rainbow has shifted, and your pot of gold is once again beyond reach?
You get your dream job, but your boss is a jerk. You’re boyfriend has the physique of Channing Tatum, but you fight because your personalities are completely incompatible. Your dream car turns out to be a lemon and you waste a tonne of money fixing it. Things rarely go to plan.
The wonderful thing about growing up is realizing the stuff you think matters, doesn’t, and the things you overlook are actually the most important. While I’m still far from ‘figuring it all out’, I’ve discovered that changing the lens through which you view the world is incredibly liberating.
There’s a saying: If you don’t feel grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more?
As it turns out, I already have a pot of gold. It is right there in the warmth of my parents’ living room. Or bubbling away in my champagne glass during breakfast club with my girlfriends. It playfully bounces off the ocean waves and sparkles atop the snow-capped mountains of my second home, Vancouver. It’s in every smile, every hug, every aromatic cup of coffee.
Just about everywhere I look, there is at least one shiny speck. If every speck of gold equals a speck of success, that makes me feel pretty damn successful.
Of course I still lose my temper and get a little moody sometimes when things don’t go to plan (I’m human after all), but it’s always when I forget to be grateful for the good things in life.
Next time you stumble upon some gold, stop to appreciate it and share it with the person next to you.
Nadia is an Australian-Ukrainian who moved to Canada for adventure, and ended up staying for love. Her work life consists of 10 years in the media industry (TV and PR/Communications), while her personal life has her on a quest to discover how to be her best self, create value for others, and positively impact the community. Patience is not her strong point, so she now works extra hard to put on the brakes and enjoy the present. She loves the sunshine, living near the ocean, and surrounding herself with warm, positive, down-to-earth people. Check out Nadia’s work at www.nadiastefyn.com.